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Rules to Live By (Notes to self)

Taking a page from Marcus Aurelius’ Mediations, I sat down and wrote the following in my journal this morning. 1.Stay True to Your Values.Let your personal ethics guide your actions. Trust Your Instincts, not Your Anxiety.Fear is real, but it is seldom based on fact....

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Thoughts on a Birthday Weekend

I turned 59 yesterday. Not a milestone birthday, but dangerously close As a result, I found myself spending a good portion of this week taking stock. How do I want to spend the last decades of my life? What changes over the next twelve months to become that person?...

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Of Tenacity and Perseverance

When my son was a young teenager, he dreamed of being an elite-level gymnast. Only one thing held him back: lack of physical ability. “Some gymnasts are strong. Some gymnasts are flexible,” his coach liked to say. “You are neither.” What my son did have was tenacity....

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Thinking Big Picture

My agent search isn’t going great. It’s a competitive industry, and agents are very picky about who they take on. (Fun fact: most agents request less than 1% of the manuscripts queried.)  I’m not deterred. A writing career isn’t built on one manuscript. Writing...

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"Stop Acting So Small. You are the Universe in ecstatic motion." Rumi My husband is the mayor. Rarely is there an event where he doesn’t meet a friend or the friend of a friend. If he doesn’t know anyone, then he’ll make new friends.  Me? I’m Mrs. Cellophane. I’m...

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Listen Linda, It’s Not a Hobby

Last week, I listened to a true crime podcast about a writer who killed her husband. Because she was an independent romance writer, I wasn’t surprised when the hosts made jokes about bodice rippers. Misogynistic, uninformed comments come with the territory. But then,...

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